Updated: Jan 25, 2019
I can't believe that following one simple shared video I have gone off and purchased an audiobook, listen to it and taken the advice onboard.
Mel Robbins - 5 Second Rule.
This short video was shared by a friend who has been dealing with quiet a substantial amount of stress, personal and work difficulties. The video was shared in a Facebook group for young men all going through mental health difficulties and as the admin I promised him I would watch it.
I did and something really hit a cord with me...as yet I still don't know what. I as I have been listening to the audiobook I really believe it has something to do with Mel's voice and style of talking. Leaving mistakes in, swearing and being real - but ultimately it is the simplistic principle of the 5 Second Rule.
As Mel states the rule is simple but in doing it can sometimes be really hard. Like Mel, when things get dark and low my brain goes into over drive with all the negativity in world. I am a failure, the world would be better off without me, how can I get out of this, it's all pointless and the list goes on.
This is pure and simple overthinking and it has been many a reason for my dark moments. In the past I have tried mindfulness which has helped but this rule so far has worked even better.
The basic principle is that within 5 seconds of having a thought, idea or plan we can quickly put ourselves into self-doubt by overthinking. When the these initial thoughts come into your head you have to count back from 5 to 1 and then take action.
Mel's personal example is due to not wanting to get out of bed due to all the crap going on in her life. She then watches a space launch one night in bed and then decides the next morning instead of hitting snooze multiple times she will countdown from 5 and blast out of bed.
I have now started putting this principle into action with getting up, taking opportunities and to stop overthinking. So far I have said yes to doing a public speaking event, spoken to strangers about what I am doing with Rotundus, shared my business cards with people after overhearing their link to my work and contacting people I heard on the radio asking for help.
So far, so good. I am continuing to listen to the audiobook and putting this principles into action to doing the things I don't want to do, hard to do or start to overthink. Bonus it is also helping my children into focusing on the tasks they are being asked to do.
Check out Mel's book here >>> 5 Second Rule