According to the research, male bonding is more likely to lower a man's stress levels than a night out with his partner, or time spent with the family - The Telegraph 2014
Psychologist, Robin Dunbar of Oxford University states that men need a minimum of two guys’ nights a week to maintain good health. He proposes that men must physically meet with about four friends, twice a week, to really enjoy the benefits of male companionship.
He also recommends that when they do meet up that guys share a pint or two, some sport, banter and activities that supports bonding. All of theses activities should be done within smaller groups to maximise benefits include faster recovery times when faced with illnesses (physical and mental), higher levels of generosity, and overall better health.
I have seen first hand loads of men who act the 'Big I Am', however over time to later find out that they have been struggling for years.
Is this because of the decades and centuries of men being told to "man up"? Michael Handrick has spoke to CALM about these two words being extremely dangerous to men. There is no one single way of being a man...so what does "man up" really mean? CALM state that:
89% of men don't open up about their feelings.
Two thirds of 18 – 24 year olds hide their true emotions.
A huge proportion of men are bottling up what they’re feeling, which has a direct correlation to being told throughout life that this is what a man is supposed to do.
It is seen to be a man you have to be physically fit, strong and hiding their emotions - however being able to stand up and express your emotions and reaching out for support is a real strength.
Talking with friends is a massive step along the road to preventing these stereotypes and another massive step forward in gaining positive well being physically and mentally.
Go to friends
I know by having a set of go to friends who I can message, call, but most importantly go out and meet is a great stress reliever. If you find it difficult to find friends due to work constraints, anxiety or any other reason send me a message and I will help in the right direct to overcoming these elements and difficulties.