This one is really personal but it something I am happy to share with anyone and everyone because the more we talk about it the easy it becomes for everyone.
Firstly this post is in no way to glorify suicide or to provide information upon how to undertake it. If you are thinking about suicide or having suicidal thought please contact The Samaritans on 116 123.
Thinking back over my life and trying to think of my earliest memory of doing this I was probably around 9/10 and it has continued through out my life.
Suicide ideation is suicidal thoughts ranging from thinking and planning. Sometimes it's just a thought of life would be better without me through to full planning of the events - but never going through it.
For some around me they will find this harder to read, than for me to write - my reason for saying this is that I have over 30 years of dealing with these thoughts and moods. Will I never not have one of these thoughts again, probably not. Will I get through them with support of my family, friends and others - I believe so.
Suicide is the most common cause of death for men aged 20-49 years in England and Wales, with 1 in 15 make an attempt at some point in their life. (Source: Mental Health Foundation)
There are many reasons for someone having suicidal thoughts and plans, being aware of someone who is out of character or displaying some warning signs may include: (Source: SAVE)
Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves
Looking for ways to kill themselves
Talking about feeling of hopeless or having a purpose
Talking about being trapped or in unbearable pain
Talking about being a burden
Increased use of alcohol or drugs
Acting anxious, agitated or reckless
Sleeping too little or too much
Withdrawn or feeling isolated
Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
Displaying extreme mood swings
This awareness could be difference between them being here or not. You may not know exactly what is or isn't best for a person who is suicidal - but being there will make a huge difference. Remember you do not have to solve their problems, but offering support and encouraging them to talk will - you may want to ask questions and being frank or really open discussions. Most people want to talk but they just don't want to burden people.
If you aren't sure what is best do encourage them to talk to the Samaritan's - they are skilled, trained and fully understanding with lots of answers to questions you may not have.
Related links form the Samaritan's >
Talking is hard, but it is the one thing that will really let people understand what you are going through. I saw a post this week that said
#MentalHealthAwarenessWeek2018#MenHelpingMenBad days are like clouds, they will soon blow over.