Day to day, moment to moment we wear different masks depending upon our mood and situation.
From personal experience of wearing different masks in different situations and moods is really tiresome. At this weeks Mental Health Today Wales 2018 Conference Umbrella Cymru gave a very informative session on transgender. On of the stand out moments was the statement "people are living in fear of being their authentic self".
No matter the reason we decide to wear a mask it can become very unhealthy causing a variety of physical and mental health problems.
A friend shared an statement from John Greenleaf Whittier this morning called 'Don't Quit'.
"When things go wrong, as they sometimes will; when the road you're trudging seems all uphill; when the funds are low and the debts are high; and you want to smile but you have to sigh; when all is pressing you down a bit - rest if you must, but don't you quit. Success is failure turned inside out; the silver tint on the clouds of doubt; and you can never tell how close you are; it may be near when it seems far. So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit - it's when things go wrong that you must not quit."
Wearing a mask can be a great thing to keep us from quitting - but in the long run we will need to take them off. Having someone to turn to; to talk to will really keep us from quitting.
The very same friend also shared a great video with Mel Robbins and how she tricks her brain from self-sabotage into and preventing self-motivation. These self-sabotages can be one of these masks, being used as a self-defence mechanism. Mel Robbins talks about the brain putting these mechanisms often without knowing, stopping us doing something that really should or want to do because it's a little scary. When the brain hesitates it's a signal of stress so the brain fires up the self-defences. Mel's way of beating this was to try and be quicker than the brain by using a simple countdown...5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and then go/do don't think just do. This stirs the brain from kicking in the self-defence.
Mel Robbins has become a leading motivational speaker and author following the implementation of this simple process in light of family, business and personal difficulties.
I still wear masks, the joker, the confident, the serious, the fool, the expert, the professional...then there are the other ones, the scared, socially anxious, self-deprecating and many others.
I have purchased a copy of The 5 Second Rule - once I've read it I will let you know what it is like.